As dating parent single
At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.I’ve been flying solo since my divorce a few years ago, not long after my son Josh*, now five, was born. I was in my early 30s, single for the first time in 10 years and, after the trauma of a failed marriage, was keen to go out, have some fun and meet new people.And, of course, the only way to find guys if you’re at home every night while your child is asleep is online dating.
Now when I spot the word ‘spontaneous’ in a man’s dating profile, I swipe left.
In reality, the things I want are fantastic nights out followed by lots of sex – but sadly they didn’t seem to top his list of priorities.
It might sound harsh to ditch someone because they’re happy simply cuddling on the sofa once a week, but as a single mum, my free time when I can actually leave the house is precious, and I certainly didn’t want to waste it watching telly with Tom.
WHEN I told Tom*, a guy I was dating, that I didn’t want to see him any more as we ‘wanted different things’, he probably thought I meant marriage and commitment.
You know, the things women are so unimaginatively accused of wanting more than men?